Sticks and Stones
May break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
Obviously whoever said this never had their 3 year old child tell them they didn’t love them!
Just as I never thought about my babies on day not being babies, I also never really gave much thought to my children's ability to reduce me to tears with a few words.
The ease with which my children have been able to pick up words and put them together to form sentences has been nothing short of astounding.
Words I don’t recall them hearing, or being used in a particular context, are hurled at me with little to no thought behind their meaning or impact.
I expect once the boys grow in stroppy teenagers, their hurtful words will be said with slightly more bite behind them, yet not be meant to cause lingering hurt.
But somehow those words from the mouth of a 3 year old, who still needs me to kiss his boo boos, cut his triangle sandwiches, hide him from the monsters, tuck up at night and carry him down the stairs when his legs feel tired hurt more than any other words.
A 3 year old should not be uttering
“Go away mummy, I don’t need you”
“I don’t love you”
“I don’t want to listen to you”
Maybe I’m being too sensitive, I don’t know, I just wasn’t expecting it.
How do you cope, as a parent, when your child says something hurtful to you? Can you just ignore it or does it linger and settle, making you question whether or not your child does actually hate you?