What Makes A Real Father? ~ Exactly The Same Thing That Makes A Real Mother
If a post was written about women in the same way there would be uproar.
I’m not sure what has made Louise Pennington so angry towards men in general, but as a daughter, granddaughter, partner, mother, sister, and niece I’m disgusted at her sweeping statements on men.
Yes, men can be total and utter douchebags, just like women can.
But, just like there are excellent, inspiring and amazing mothers there are also excellent, inspiring and amazing fathers, they deserve their day.
A day when kids, young and old can celebrate the men in their lives who have been a role model.
I’m not sure why she states Fathers Day should be a day we look at women and the realities they face, perhaps we can do that on Mothers Day or Women's Day, or any other day, just not Fathers Day.
As a woman I agree that more needs to be done to make things equal between the sexes. I don’t agree this can, will or should be done by making out that men are the villains, we women are just as bad, some of us even worse.
Whilst it is without a doubt wrong for a father to withhold maintenance, so to is it wrong for mothers to deny fathers access to their children, two wrongs certainly don’t make a right and whilst the “adults” fight out their differences, the ones who really suffer are the children.
Being a good parent is not a men v’s women issue, it’s a responsible adult v’s irresponsible adult issue.
Fathers are not the ones who caused the need for tax credits and income support, perhaps a closer look at minimum wage, job availability, childcare costs and the price of housing would be a more apt place to start.
“We need to take a real stand against abusive men and start forcing men to take responsibility for where they decide to ejaculate.”
In the above statement Ms Pennington gives the impression that the women involved in the ejaculation process had no say in it, I dare say some didn’t, but the vast majority did, and women should be just as willing to take responsibility for their actions.
Rather than slamming fathers, and providing a list of tips on how to be a real father, we should be looking at mothers and fathers, encouraging both to be real parents.
Parenting isn’t something you can spilt into equal mum and dad jobs, the vast majority or families manage to find a way that works for them.
Knowing your kids teacher, favourite toy, best friend or some other useless piece of information which probably changes on an hourly basis does not make you a real father.
Being a person your child can trust, love and depend on does.