I’ve been thinking about sex this week. Actually I think about it every week, but this week it’s different, my children had their first lessons in Sex & Relationship Education and it’s opened a whole new can of worms.
They learnt all about their private parts and the differences between boys and girls, trying to ascertain anything else they learnt is hopeless, they’re 6 year old boys; girls are gross and the words penis and vagina are hilarious.
I must admit I have so far put little thought to educating my children on sex and relationships, whilst they are aware of respecting their own and others bodies and personal space, I’ve seen no reason why they need to know about sex. They are after all only 6 and still believe in Santa, sleep with teddy bears and unicorns and want to be Batman / Spiderman when they grow up.
But it would seem I’m in a minority, apparently children need to know about sex.
And wanking, anal, blow jobs and porn.
According to many parents who were offering their opinions on a mumsnet piece (I know, but I was looking for info on what they would have learnt this week) by 10 years old children need to know all about sex, wanking, anal, blow jobs and porn.
My jaw just about hit the floor; here we are as parents bemoaning the lack of childhood and how quickly society is to sexualise our children whilst simultaneously educating our children on activities which frankly they just don’t need to know about.
There is a huge difference between educating children about the biology of sex and the rules of safe, legal and consensual sex and actually getting down to nitty gritty of positions and such.
Am I a prude or a bad mother by not wanting my children to know such things at 6, 10 or even 12 years of age?
We have a watershed of 9pm for swearing on tv, yet I’m expected to explain anal sex and blow jobs to my kids before they hit double digits in age….
I want my children to grow up and learn about their own sexuality and the realities of sex, when they feel ready, rather than when everyone else seems to think they need to know it.
It’s not often I doubt my parenting, and this is a subject I really hadn’t considered, but now, urgh, I’m really wondering if I’m letting my kids down or not by not covering these issues with them.